I’ve had this coat for a little over three years, and I can count on one hand how many times I’ve rocked it, the fact that it hasn’t been cold enough to wear it(until now) may have something to do with it; but I also believe that most women have at least one item in their closet that they might have wore once and forgot all about it.

I will say that although I really like this coat, I might have been a little more excited about my monogramed pin which I thought was lost forever, I may or may not have praise danced after finding it.

You know what else makes me praise dance? The fact that God’s grace has kept us these past 11 months and here we are in the twelfth month of 2017 with Christmas just a few days away and the new year impatiently waiting to greet us.





I always like to take this time of year to reflect on the experiences I’ve had, the ups and downs, the situations I’ve encountered, some of which I wish I had handled differently and what I can carry with me into the new year.

Yes you read that right, what I can carry with me into 2018.

We’re so quick to dismiss and leave behind what we believe to have been some of the worst experiences… I know because I penned a post about all the things I wouldn’t be taking with me into 2017, which served me no purpose because I still found myself inadvertently bringing those very things I declared and decreed I wouldn’t into the new year.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t make plans to leave whatever is obstructing God’s purpose for your life, many of us already know what those things are. I’m all for removing oneself from toxic situations, especially those that disable you from being the best you, but one cannot do it alone.

It takes grace… lot’s of it.



I’d be a fool to think that my efforts alone were what brought me through 2017. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this year, ( so big we made a shirt of it ) is that the grace given to me by God must be extended to others.


We’re so quick to crucify others for their mistakes just because they sin differently than we do. I know I have… Until I started asking myself what  If God was to treat me the way I treat others.

That really started to put things into perspective for me, and though I’m not quite where I want to be, I’m certainly not where I used to be.

As we gather with family and friends to celebrate Christmas, let’s all be reminded that the embodiment of Grace is the reason for the season, and let’s try to extend a little more to the ones around us.

Until next time.


“But to each one of us grace was given…”

-Ephesians 4:7







  • Shon Valdry

    December 19, 2017 at 7:21 am

    Well said, Gorgeous! Ok, so you need to rock this coat a bit more, it is fab on!
    I so am with you on the Grace of God and how we might extend it to others and cling to it ourselves. On a shallow note, I have decided to embrace my natural hair again after “relapsing” ;) back to a relaxed pixie! I am extending myself the same grace I lend to others who change and decide to reverse course over a number of things. It’s mundane but still a way that I see God working in my life.

    Hugs to you and your family as we embrace this beautiful season, no matter the external forces all around us trying to draw our focus elsewhere!
    “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him, Immanuel”(which means,”God with us”). Matthew 1:23

    • Charlotte

      December 19, 2017 at 9:19 am

      Thank you so much Shon. Funny you mentioned your relapse. Iā€™m seriously thinking of cutting my hair off šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚