the true meaning of self-care

I haven’t touched this blog in weeks… as a matter of fact, one of the last posts I wrote, I promised to write on a weekly basis, and here I am 4 weeks later.

Le sigh!


In my defense (insert smile here) one of the many reasons for my absence from this space was to take time to reflect on the direction I want MNH to go.

During my “hiatus” I had the opportunity to connect with the wonderful Tieko who God used to pour a boatload of wisdom in me.

I’ve always had an idea as to what I wanted MNH to be, but there’s nothing like divine confirmation.

I want this place to be your source for all things style, but most importantly I want it to be a space where you can be encouraged, edified and learn about God’s Love.

I will keep mum on how often I will post because it didn’t work out so well last time; but I pray that when I do, it will be something of substance.


On to today’s topic… preservation!


I’ll be the first to admit that I didn’t quite understand the importance of self care or self preservation.

Before truly understanding its significance, I chalked up self care to a manicure or a night out with my girlfriends, and although both are great ways to have “me time” self preservation is much more than a full set of gel nails and a glass of Malbec.

Self care is preservation from anything or anyone that causes you to be less than your best. Self care is removing yourself from situations that are toxic to your overall being, but most importantly, self care is Biblical!

Today I want to break down self care in three different categories:

The Mind

The Body

The Soul

The Body

I’ve shared this before on an older post and want to share it again because I believe it is of great value, specifically for women. My mom is the hardest working woman I know, she’s selfless, her hands are never idle and she’s the embodiment of the Proverbs 31 woman.

And although it would be a blessing to be half the woman she is and as much as I love this lady… She does not know how to rest.

I inherited those hard working genes and it’s only in recent months and a bit of a burn out that I’ve learned the importance of rest.


” Thus the heavens and the earth, and all the host of them, were finished. And on the seventh day God ended His work which He had done, and He rested on the seventh day from all His work which He had done. Then God blessed the seventh day and sanctified it, because in it He rested from all His work which God had created and made”.  Genesis 2:1-4


God! The Almighty, the creator of the world… He rested!

Now not take the text out of context, I want to emphasize that God DID WORK! He created the heavens and the earth.

The passage reads on the seventh day, and if you read the book of Genesis, you will notice that before resting, he worked. So let’s not quote this scripture as a means to be idle and rest all day.

But if God Almighty took a little rest, we too, in our human frailty need rest.

The Mind

Taking care of our mind is just as important as taking care of our body. They say where the mind goes, the body follows and I agree wholeheartedly.

There’s power in protecting our thoughts and truth be told that is the highest form of self-care.

So how do we protect our mind? By watching what we feed it!

If any of you are like me, you are extremely mindful (pun intended) as to what you allow yourself to consume. In our house we, don’t watch the news, we don’t watch certain shows, we don’t listen to certain music. Heck, I don’t follow certain folks on social media for the sake of my sanity.

Not to say that all music is bad, all news is bad, and all shows are bad! What I’m saying is we’ve got to be careful as to what we expose ourselves to.

It’s okay not to watch the news and the current events if it causes you anxiety, it’s okay not to be friends with people who are toxic or make you feel less than, it’s okay not to listen to that song that reminds of your ex, it’s okay to take a break from IG, Twitter, Facebook, Youtube, blogging or whatever your platform of choice is, if it makes you want to compare yourself to others.

” more than anything you guard, protect your mind, for life flows from it”. – Proverbs 4:23

Some Bible translations replace the word “mind” with “heart”. I found that interesting, it shows that our minds are connected to our hearts and we all know how important it is to protect our hearts.


The Soul

Last but certainly not least, the soul.

Much like our cell phones need to be charged for optimal use, our souls need to be fed and filled with nothing else but the Word.

So tell me, do you practice self-care? Let me know below.

Until next time.



Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
–  Phil. 4:8


  • Shiricka Hunter

    August 22, 2017 at 5:19 pm

    Very timely and much needed being that I’m preparing myself to be a mom of two! I was wondering how to balance taking care of myself and still be a wife and mom (yikes)! You simplified it and I’m taking notes. Love MilkNHonee! 💙