I have a question! It is rhetorical in nature but nevertheless a question!

How are we in the sixth month of the year?!

We’ve officially hit the halfway mark and it seems as though time is traveling at the speed of light.


I’ve also noticed that I haven’t updated my blog in a few weeks, and I wish I had a profound explanation for the latter but the truth is, I don’t. I believe that consistency is great, but a break from consistency is also a good thing.


Thankfully, I can’t stay away from this spot for too long so I’ve made the decision to make an effort to post at least once a week throughout the month of June, plus,  I’m eager to share some of the exclusive content I’ve been working on.


My decision to post (at least) once a week throughout the month leads me to today’s topic. I want to touch on our ability to make decisions.

I joked on Instagram that my romper/dress was great for those of us who can’t decide what we want to wear. It is essentially the best of both worlds. Wouldn’t it be great if life’s decisions were as simple as this romper/shorts?!

” There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision.” – William James


I recently came across the above quote and found it to be so true that I wanted to share it with you. We’ve all struggled with indecision and if you haven’t you’re my (s)hero.

My husband used to dread asking me something as simple as where I wanted to eat because I would suggest X, than Y than Z than go back to X. To make matters worst, I would ask him what he wanted to eat, only to decline every suggestion he offered. Talk about indecisive! *hides face in shame*

As lighthearted as the above anecdote is, indecision can be a very serious issue. Your ability, or lack thereof to make a decision can cost you opportunities, put you in undesirable situations and move your life in a direction it was never meant to move in!

What most don’t understand is that indecision is a decision to let someone else make a decision for you. Let’s go back to the anecdote with my husband for a second!

Most times when I can’t make a decision about food, he ends up making the decision for me, and I end up eating something I didn’t want to eat in the first place, but eat anyway because hunger has taken over. Is my belly full? Yes, is it what I wanted? No! But it’s what I got, because I was unable to make a decision. Of course this is a lighthearted scenario but most of the time the quality of our lives is based on the choices we make. Don’t let this post fool you, I don’t have it all together, but I know Who does! Read on.

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Listen, we’re only human, so we’re flawed by nature, and although we were made in His image, we are far from perfect, so we will fail and we will make weird choices, and thankfully we have a weapon at our disposal that is willing and ready to help.

But before I get to the pièce de résistance I want to identify three areas in our lives that disable us from taking a stand!

I came across an article from a sermon by Tom Shepard  while researching for this post and it was so on point I had to share. In his sermon he covered three areas of instability that often correlates with being indecisive.


  • unstable emotions – you worry when you can’t make a decision.

  • unstable relationships – lack of commitment ( can be confusing for all parties involved)

  • unstable spiritual life – lack of faith, lack of commitment to God.


The sermon is much longer and I encourage you to read it in its entirety, but the question remains: how do we slay the giant that is indecision?

I have a tried and true answer:

we slay it with Wisdom!

There are numerous references to Wisdom in the Bible, for instance, Solomon asked for it in 2 Chronicles and James 1:5 reminds us that:

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”



If you were expecting a scientific break down or a step by step guide as to how to become more decisive. There is none. It’s as. simple. as. asking.

Next time you find yourself in an indecisive state of mind, take a minute to pray and let the Wise One lead your way.

Until next time




“For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength”- 1 Corinthians 1:25



One Comment

  • Michelle

    June 2, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Dearest milknhonee,
    Thank you for making your posts just what I need🌻 I love the perfect balance of fashion & wisdom. Stay blessed!