self care

I was recently featured on Noire Care where I touched on the topic of taking time to myself to take care of me. To be quite honest the subject of self care is a bit foreign to me.

I come from a lineage of strong African women who believe that hands should never be idle, that hard work builds character and when given the opportunity to maximize your time, it should be taken.

I’ve inherited that gene and strongly believe that the saying rings true; ” Idle hands are the devil’s workshop”. Not to say that every second of your day should be filled with something to do, because that becomes a control issue and a completely different blog topic, but there is no harm in effectively using your time in doing things that are lucrative.

One of those things is self care.

I’ll be the first to admit that this time last year I was on the edge of a burn out! I disclosed it to a few close friends who encouraged me through prayer and edifying words, but it was my obgyn who shared 7 words that profoundly impacted me and forever changed my perspective on hard work; those words were ” do your best and leave the rest”.

Women have a giving spirit by nature. We serve our families, children, husbands but we also need to serve ourselves in a non self indulgent way. We need to plan dinner with our girlfriends, trips or solo time to read a book! These are necessities to maintain our sanity and not find ourselves at the edge of burn out land as I did last year.

We cannot serve from an empty vessel.

With that being said, I wanted to share a few simple ideas that can help you disconnect in order to reconnect!

1. take a day off- whether you work in the home or outside the home! Take a day off, find someone to watch your little ones, put on your favorite outfit and head out to do the things you love to do.

2. plan a trip with your girlfriends. it can be something as inexpensive as a staycation or a trip to a tropical island!

3. Go to your favorite coffee shop, even if it’s only for a few hours! Bring a book and read!

Those are my 3 cents ;)

It’s a matter of making self care a priority!

S.N. Ya’ll see that little ab peaking through my Tobi halter crop top and midi skirt

So what are some of your self care practices?

Drop them below!

Until next time!

  • Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers. (3 John 1:2 NASB)