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I’ve been rocking this leopard print scarf for a week or so and it has blessed my hair in ways I can’t even begin to describe. I will be frank and tell you that this hair of mine has been the bane of my existence since bidding farewell to relaxers a little over a year ago. My hair has been in a transitional state since last April, and truth be told apart from conditioning and protective styling I have not a single clue how to manage my born again coils.

As with all things, I’ve come to find that this transitional period requires patience and persistence, it is definitely  a learning process, a relationship of sorts that needs to be cultivated to grow ( pun intended).

Speaking of relationship, I posted the above pictured dress on Instagram the other day, and shared in my caption that I have a deeply rooted love and hate relationship for bodycon dresses,  partly because they reveal what most women or in my case mom(s) try to hide,  an ” imperfect body”, which in a sense is a tad bit ironic because this so called imperfection was given to me as a result of birthing two little girls who aren’t perfect by any means ( the tantrums are ruthless) but they we’re given to my by a perfect God.

It’s so easy to notice undesirable features on ourselves or find fault in relationships that God has strategically placed in our lives to bring about change in our character.

The key word here is relationship.

Read on!

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We all know at least one person that only shows up when they need something.

You know the one I’m referring to, the one that never calls to say hello unless there’s an ulterior motive, the one who always needs a ride but never offers gas money or worst, the one who expects you to be at their beckon call, only to pull a disappearing act once you dare to decline their request only to resurface again the moment they need a favor.

Hashtag annoyed!

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I’m a giver by nature, I get that from my mother, she’s selfless, I mentioned here that she’s a Proverbs 31 woman, as for me I’m not quite there LOL, but a giver nevertheless.

I recently found myself in a situation where I was ridiculously annoyed by a “taker to the point where I vowed to say no to everyone who dared to ask me anything. That’s a strong statement coming from a believer.

Saying no to everyone who dared to ask me anything, I mean that is far from Christ like behavior. So I prayed. I never want people’s character to be a reflection of mine, meaning I can’t allow people to get to me to the point where they change me.

So I prayed for revelation. What was it  that God was trying to reveal to me through these leeches? ( LBVS)

And the answer was as clear as day… Relationship.

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What is a relationship?

A relationship is the way in which two or more people are connected, or the state of being connected. A connection, a bond, an association… I can go on but I will stop here.

Relationships are much like gardening. A seed needs to be  planted and the soil cultivated in order for anything to grow.

If you’ve ever found yourself in a situation like mine, the question here is : how is your relationship with Christ?!

Is it give and take? Or is take, take and take?

What if Christ was to get annoyed with you?

What if Christ was to block His ears to your prayers, because your relationship with Him is one of convenience like the above mentioned leeches.

One that holds on to Him for what He can do for you?

Has He not shed enough blood?!

This is not to say that you should walk around saying yes to everyone, God will give you a discerning spirit to help those who have a pure agenda and who truly need your help.

The purpose of this post is to encourage you to have a change of heart and to see things from a different perspective. To see things from a Godly perspective and to work on your relationship with Christ before working on your relationship with men ( men being used here as mankind and not necessarily men).

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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I’m not one to touch on topics or speak on things I’ve never experienced, I want to share with you what is tried and true. I’ve also written in a recent post that my constant prayers these last weeks is for God to create in me a clean heart and in order for me to be His ambassador on this here earth, I need to be able to build a relationship with folks, even if it brings me outside of my comfort zone. But in order for me to see folks the way He sees them, I must first build a relationship with Him. Not one of surface, but one that characteristically changes you/me.

I’m always amazed at how God will use things that annoy you to change you.

I see you Christ!

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Completely unrelated but how dope is this dress? I don’t even like bodycon dresses! But this one right here!  is my new fave.

 

That’s all I’ve got folks.

How do you deal with crazy people? LOL

 

Until next time!

“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.”

2 Cor: 4:16