I try to step away from the blog once a month to focus on other things and to give myself a mental break. I call them my feng shui moments; being a mom of two kids under four can be daunting and sometimes you just need to cool out for a while.
Last week I took the week “off” to give my brain a break from the blogosphere and focus on other projects and it felt nice. I must admit that I did miss MNH during my 7 day absence and I’m happy to be writing to you all!
In a society where we’re encouraged to grind non-stop and where social media posts constantly remind us that if we slumber we might lose an opportunity, it is very easy to adopt a ” #teamnosleep” mentality.
I’m all about hard work! Matter of fact hard work is forever etched in my brain as a result of having immigrant parents; y’all know how immigrant parents do. They go hard and I can proudly say that I don’t have one lazy bone in my body because of them.
You know what else I’ve learned from my folks. That working too hard sometimes causes you to miss opportunities. Which you ask? Opportunities to just chill and do nothing. Last Saturday, I woke up and didn’t have a thing to do as it relates to blogging, taking Neriah to swim class or working on my side hustle. I chose to do nothing, and truth be told, I didn’t even know what to do with myself.
I’m an early bird by nature. I get up early no matter what! They say the early bird gets the worm right? Well I say , sometimes the dang bird needs to sit her tailfeather in that nest and do nothing but hangout with her little birdies for the sake of our own sanity and the sake of their childhood.
I’m all about empowering women, specifically moms, and I know how hard it gets when we try to do everything, sometimes forgetting ourselves. During my maternity leave from work, I mastered the art of my “feng shui” moments and below I’m sharing my tips. They are in no particular order.
1. Treat yoself (please) don’t cheat yoself
Go out with your friends! Enjoy adult food, adult conversation, and adult drinks. I try to do this at least once or twice a month.
When you can, spend time alone. I like to do this early in the morning when the house is quiet and everyone is sleeping. There’s beauty in silence, it’s a time to be one with your thoughts. I like to take that time to pray, read my Bible and reflect.
Make time for your husband! It is so very easy to get caught up with the kids. Get a babysitter and paint the town red with the one you love.
Rest is an essential part of life. If you’re not well rested you most likely won’t be able to function properly. Tiredness will mess your day up! Make sure to catch as many zzzzz’s as possible so you’re ready to tackle your day!
5.Give yourself a break
We tend to be a little hard on ourselves. Nothing about motherhood is perfect, and the good thing is it doesn’t have to be.
Until next time!