I recently penned an article for Chicago Parent Magazine entitled “10 style lessons I learned from motherhood” and I wanted to extend the concept to my blog; but instead of discussing style I wanted to switch it up a little and share my feelings on what motherhood has taught me about life in general.
I always knew that motherhood would change me, it is impossible for an experience that unique and powerful to leave you the same.
Below are my lessons. I would love for you to share some of yours by commenting below or on your respective blogs.
Let’s do this !
1. Unconditional love is something I’ve known about through God’s grace in my life and I’m learning about its depth every single day through Neriah. Days aren’t without challenges but my love for her never changes and it never will.
2. It’s OK to say no. It is impossible to please everybody and in my opinion it’s OK to be selfish when it comes to your child/family’s needs. Trying to please people who are unable to see your efforts is pointless; don’t beat yourself up over it. Someone will always have an opinion or advice to share. Accept that everyone is entitled to theirs and move on.
3. Patience is indeed a virtue, and a two year old will test it, in fact I’m tested everyday. Patience has never been my strong suit and I’ve been praying for it and God continues to grant it.
4. The Flow… just go with it. I’m a bit of a control freak. I plan, execute and repeat. Parenthood has changed my controlling ways and I find myself to be a lot more lenient when it comes to certain things. Going with the flow has also allowed me to be in the moment and enjoy every single second.
5.Women are magical! Think about it.. We carry humans in our bellies… for 9 months! Need I say more? Didn’t think so.
6.It’s the simple things that matter most. I consider myself to be quite a simple person. I don’t take myself too seriously and am pretty nonchalant about many things. I get excited about everything, and I want my daughter to appreciate the smaller things. She smiles when I give her a spoon to play with. A spoon folks! Enabling her to appreciate the small things will make her appreciate the bigger ones.
7.Laugh often. I love to laugh. I recently came back from a girl’s trip and I now have abs due to excessive laughter. In our house we laugh every single day. My husband is a comedian at heart. Our humor, although juvenile, works because Neriah enjoys it. For instance we like to re-enact a scene from the Lion King movie where my hubby picks up Neriah and puts her up in the air as I belt out “Nants ingonyama bagithi Baba” Being silly is in our DNA!
8. Comparison is the thief of joy. I read that a while ago and I couldn’t agree more. It’s easy to make things “appear” a certain way especially nowadays with social networks. Truth is, most times the ones “on instagram straight flexin” ( shoutout to Trinidad James for the quote) are doing just that… “flexin”. Do what works for you and never, ever compare yourself to others.
9. Faith is something I’ve always had but, when I found out I was expecting for a second time (read about that here) I had to ask for a double portion and I continue to do so. I now know that I’ve been entrusted with the responsibility to be this little girl’s mom and I trust that I have and will be given the tools to see her though all the way.
10. Words are powerful! I’m mindful of what I say around my child and regardless of how I feel, I’ve learned to always use my words to encourage others. The world is cruel enough and I personally don’t think that there is any victory in someone’s ability to have an unfiltered mouth. Your tongue is your most powerful tool and it’s wise to use it to edify as opposed to do the opposite. As a parent I lead by example, being nice is not an option, it is mandatory in our household.
That’s it folks! Hope I didn’t bore you too much. If you choose to share 10 lessons on your blog please tag me, would love to read them.
On a related but unrelated topic, Spanx tweeted me about my “10 style lessons” and it made my day, because I wear spanx! Yeah I said it!
Until next time!