transition: summer to fall


“getting dressed in September is confusing, it’s fall in the morning, summer in the afternoon, and winter at night”.

The above is a quote I found online, and I have to say that I totally agree. Over the weekend my family and I went for breakfast and I believe the temperature was at 60, by the time 3pm rolled around it was 85, the mercury jumped 25 degrees.

To top it all off I had the kids dressed like it was about to snow out of fear that they’d get cold.

Not sure why I react in such a way,  I mean we all know that September is quite schizophrenic when it comes to weather especially in Chicago! One minute you’re experiencing African heat and the next a Canadian winter,one extreme to the next!

For that reason, I’m sharing 3 tips on how to transition from summer to fall effortlessly.



  1. It all about layers. Grab a light coat, a denim jacket, an oversized sweater, a cape, or a trench, something you can easily remove when it gets hot!


2. keep a few of your summer dresses out, most summer dresses are made from breathable fabric, perfect for those warm fall afternoons. Once the temp. drops, refer to number 1.


milknhoneethat blogger pose, like what am I looking at?

3. Lastly, flat shoes! My feet get really cold, really fast so you most likely won’t catch me in open toe shoes during autumn months; you will however catch me in sneakers! Comfort and style? Yes please! Ballet flats, oxfords or whatever you fancy are a welcomed break from heeled sandals!


So tell me, how do you transition, from summer to Fall?

Have any suggestions? Drop ’em below!

Until next time.

“The sun rises and the sun sets,
    and hurries back to where it rises.”

Ecclesiastes  1: 5




We’ve all heard of the dog whisperer, well, the power of social media has enabled me to connect with Malika who I like to call the “picky eater whisperer”.

Her children eat veggies and they love it! Meanwhile I can’t even get Neriah to look at brocoli ! What kind of mom am I lol ( sarcasm intended)

My oldest child is the definition of picky eater and I’m to blame, but  much like potty training, children can be taught to adopt healthy habits by us being great examples, our bodies will only crave what we feed it, we are creatures of habit. Plus last I checked my four year old does not make grocery decisions and so the ball is truly in our court.

I asked super mom Malika to share one of her recipes and share a few words of wisdom with us. Below is what ensued!


How many of you have a sweet tooth? I think I was born with a few. All my life Ive enjoyed sweets without ever contimplating the effect of all  those processed sugars I once consumed. Now that I am a mother of two toddlers I am more aware of some of the effects of refined sugars and when you know better, you do better.

I decided to be conscious of the food choices I make for myself and family; through research, trial and error, and sheer luck I’m now a master of “snack hacks”  for my children.


I love chocolate, and wish I could eat it all day everyday, that’s where raw cacoa comes in, I can literally eat it everyday! Cacoa, not to be confused with cocoa, is the purest form of chocolate you can consume.

Raw Cacoa has almost four times  the amount of antioxidants found in processed chocolate. This plant based phenomenon does everything from boosting serotonin levels to improving digestion. I love it for myself because it creates loads of energy, which every mama needs.

Below you will find a recipe I created, it’s simple but it is oh so tasty, plus it’s a treat  the whole family enjoy. Now keep in mind I am no Martha Stewart,  I rarely measure anything, and almost always add more of something once done to make sure it is just right!


I present to you the : Shock-A-Lot Shake!

You will need:

3 spoons of raw cacoa powder(any table spoon will do)

1 frozed banana


Dates (i used 4)

Coconut milk

1/2 Avocado



Keep in mind a few of these ingredients can be substituted. For example You can have your choice in milk, however I would stick to a plant/nut based milk to insure that all nutrients are being absorbed.  maximum absortion of nutrients. The avocado adds a nice creamy texture but you can skip it. Add all ingredients to your blender while playing Kelis’ Milkshake song. Don’t skip that part!

And tadaaaaa Mom of the year award goes tooooo……YOU!!!!!! You Get a hug, You get a hug, Everybody Gets a Hug!


Run and try it!

Thanks for sharing Malika!


Have any cool healthy recipes? Drop ’em below!


Until next time!


“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

-1 COR. 10:31





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I was born in Africa, both of my parents were born and raised in Africa and although westernized in some of my ways,I am African to the core and I’m thankful to my parents for instilling traditional values

I come from a home where typical African (strict but loving) ethics were bestowed upon my brothers and I and I often find myself parenting my girls in the same way, specifically like mother.

My mother is the original bossmom ( clearly a biased opinion).

If there was ever a blueprint on motherhood, she most certainly had a  hand in it and although I strive to be like her I am not my mother.

She’s in a league of her own.

An impressively awesome league.


milknhoneeshe clearly does not see me trying to take this picture.

Regardless of ethnic background or traditional values we all share a common denominator: our children.

Without them we wouldn’t be moms.

For the sake of sanity and “bossmomhood” I’m sharing a few universally applicable points below.

Read them, share them, apply them.


1) Don’t shame other moms because they don’t do things the way you do. Do what works for you. Also, don’t feel the need to do what other moms do.

Do what works for you. Plain and simple.


2) You’ve heard it before… Comparison is the thief of joy, well same goes for your child. Don’t compare your child to their, friends, or even their siblings! We’re all individuals, kids included ( no matter their age).

3) Do your best and leave the rest! Let me tell you something, I have OCD tendencies. I can do messy but I CANNOT do dirty! Do you know how much of an adjustment it was when I became a mother of two. Do you know that my youngest enjoys throwing oatmeal, avocado and spaghetti on the floor. I’ve actually come to the conclusion that she does it on purpose. Why? Because she looks at me while she’s doing it.

I would constantly run behind both my girls picking up after them…Until I got tired of it and stopped. My house gets messy… it’s okay.

4) Don’t let your children watch Caillou! Caillou is the devil and its creators are demons. LOL – Caillou is the such brat!

5) Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Can’t deep clean your house, get a cleaning service to come out to scrub your place for you. Can’t cook? Get a meal service! Need a break (yes even if you’re a sahm) get a sitter to come watch your kids a few hours a day. Getting assistance, or help does not make you less of a mother.


Listen none of us are superwomen, well except my mom. Society and social media will have you questioning your mothering skills. Don’t believe the hype.

milknnhoneehow most our pictures come out.

Do what works for your family.

Got tips? Drop them below.

Until next time!